Not everyone makes a good mentor. Much research points to the fact that bad mentors can do more harm than good in a mentoring relationship. It is, therefore, imperative that mentors possess outstanding qualities in order to serve in this coveted role. They must be reliable, ethical, personable, patient, good listeners, positive role models and advocates for their mentee. They must be non- judgmental and show up for mentoring when they say they will. They must not engage in alcohol or drug abuse. They also must have an outstanding record of employment.
I provide this list of MENTOR TRAITS in all my trainings of mentors to give them an idea of who makes a good mentor. It serves as a handy guide when looking for a mentor.
MENTOR TRAITS
1. Mentors listen. They maintain eye contact and give
mentees their full attention.
2. Mentors guide. Mentors are there to help their
mentees find life direction, never to push them.
3. Mentors are practical. They give insights about keeping on
task and setting goals and priorities.
4. Mentors educate. Mentors educate about life and their own careers.
5. Mentors provide insight. Mentors use their personal experience to help their mentees avoid mistakes and learn from good decisions.
6. Mentors are accessible. Mentors are available as a resource and a sounding board.
7. Mentors criticize constructively. When necessary, mentors point out areas that need improvement, always focusing on the mentee’s behavior, never his/her character.
8. Mentors are supportive. No matter how painful the mentee’s experience,
mentors continue to encourage them to learn and improve.
9. Mentors are specific. Mentors give specific advice on what
was done well or could be corrected, what was
achieved and the benefits of various actions.
10. Mentors care. Mentors care about their mentees’ progress in school,
employment and career planning,
as well as their personal development.
11. Mentors succeed. Mentors not only are successful themselves,
but they also foster success in others.
12. Mentors are admirable. Mentors are well respected in their
organizations and in the community.
Dr. Susan G. Wienberger
